When Your Daughter Wants to Wear Makeup

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If your tween daughter can't keep from checking out the makeup aisle at the local drugstore, it might be time to consider how you want to handle the issue of makeup for preteen girls. There are numerous companies that manufacture make up for girls; you can find everything from lip gloss to eye products at big-box retailers and specialty stores. But if you're still wondering if you want your daughter to wear makeup, there are a few points to consider.

Tween Girls Wearing Makeup

Many parents don't want their tween daughters wearing makeup because they are afraid their daughters will look older than they actually are, or attract attention that they're not ready to handle. Others simply want their daughters to wait until they're old enough to understand how to properly apply make-up and take care of their skin. Whatever the reasons, there are several factors to consider when mulling over the whole issue of makeup for girls.

Points to Consider

It's normal for girls to want to wear make-up and take an interest in fashion in general. Even if your tween daughter has always leaned towards the tom-boy side, expect her to take an interest before she leaves the tween years behind.

Don't automatically dismiss the idea of makeup. For girls, it's almost a coming of age milestone.

Keep in mind that if you forbid your daughter from wearing makeup, she might rebel and hide her behavior from you.

How many girls arrive at middle school in the morning only to rush to the girl's bathroom and whip out mascara, eyeshadow, eyeliner, and other products? Instead of forbidding your daughter from wearing makeup, you might want to consider allowing her to use products that will make her feel grown-up but ​aren't as obvious as, say, purple eyeliner. For example, you could tell your daughter that she may wear a light pink lip gloss, and apply a lightly tinted moisturizer when she feels her complexion needs a little help. You could also consider allowing her to use a peach or skin-toned eye shadow or eye cream that will blend with her natural skin color.

Sometimes, the combination of girls and makeup leads to disaster.

Tweens just don't have the experience they need to use makeup properly. Consider taking your tween to a makeup class.

Many department stores offer such courses, as do independent beauty consultants. You can also find makeup tutorials on YouTube.com that are geared towards young girls and women who don't know a lot about how to apply make-up properly.

Talk to your tween about how makeup influences what others might think about them.

Just like the clothes they wear, tweens and teens are often judged by the amount of makeup they're wearing or the way they wear it.

Ask your daughter if she's ever thought a grown-up looked frightening because of their clothes or makeup. Help her find a look that works with her facial features, her personality, and her daily routine. For example, girls who are athletic and participate in a lot of sports may not want makeup running down their faces as they participate in soccer, softball or other activities.

Emphasize finding a look that's appropriate for the occasion. Teach your daughter to understand that makeup, like clothing, can be event appropriate. Teach her to go for a lighter, more natural look for school, and a more formal look for school dances, or other special events.

Teach your tween that she must take care of her skin and that means always cleaning her face before she applies makeup, and cleansing before bed. Eye-makeup remover can be particularly helpful in removing mascara and eye-shadow, without having to use soap or other cleansers on the delicate eye area.

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