When You Miss Your Baby at Work

Any working mom has experienced grief over missing their baby. But did you know that there is this powerful Jedi mind trick you can play to snap out of it and get back to work? It’s particularly useful if you are returning from a maternity leave. 

So instead of thinking about leaving the workforce because the pain is too much to bear use this compartmentalization trick to stay the course!


Pack It up in the Mama Box

Missing your baby while at work. Pack it up in the Mama Box

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Let’s say you just had lunch at work and you start to think about how much you miss your baby. The tears start to well up in your eyes and it’s hard to get back into your project. This is when you’ll envision your mama box. It can be any color you want, perhaps red though because it’s important you use this Jedi trick. Don’t forget to envision a lid because you need closure.

Next, take the thoughts that were upsetting you and imagine picking them up and putting them gently into the box. Take the lid and cover the box so the thoughts don’t escape. Once the thought is boxed up, swipe the box aside. Out of sight, out of mind. Then get back to work.

Don’t worry though these thoughts won’t stay in this box forever (that’s the next step). There is a time and place for everything. This is a huge lesson to learn as a working mom. The pain won’t last forever. Your child is safe. You’ll see them soon. There’s work to be done so you can continue providing for your family. This is reality and the mama box can help keep you in the present moment. 


Unbox the Mama Box When the Time Is Right

Unpack when the timing is right

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When you leave work, un-compartmentalize or unpack the mama box. Think about that red mama box and open the lid. Can you name the emotion you were feeling? This is the first step in strengthening your emotional intelligence. When you know the type of emotion you felt it’ll be easier to spot the next time you need to use this Jedi mind trick.

Here’s the challenging step, allow the emotion(s) to wash over you. The feeling doesn’t last that long, right? And besides, you’re about to see your family which will cause you joy!


Avoid Overpacking Your Mama Box

Missing your baby. Don''t over pack the mama box!

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If you don’t unpack the mama box this Jedi mind trick won’t work. Sure, ignorance is bliss but keeping your emotions boxed up can do more harm than good. It’s normal to feel sad or worried about your children but if you get stuck in this state it’ll hard to stay motivated to work, right? Likewise, if you never acknowledge that you’re upset you’ll eventually break down.

This coping strategy can play an important role in your success as a working mom. It helps to push you forward. When you master this Jedi trick it’ll become a habit to push the mama box aside so you can get back to work.


Apply the Same Trick With Your Career Box

Use the Jedi mind trick with your career

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Don’t let work thoughts invade your quality family time. Pack up your work feelings into a box with your company’s logo on it. Then swipe the career box to the side.

To help put the career box out of sight using your five senses. Admire your child’s features like their eyes or hair. Ask them a question and listen to their voice. Give them a big hug and smell their hair. This will get you back to the present moment and help keep the career box out of mind.

You will unpack the career box when you’re alone during your commute to work the next day. Your kids will be at school, your spouse will be at work and you’ll be able to unpack the box and then take action.

A Word From Verywell

Use this trick to stop struggling with working motherhood. When the mommy guilt is so great you feel like it will crush you, bring out the mama box. When you’re angry about missing out on a promotion while eating with your family bring out the career box. Compartmentalizing your emotions is a great tool to become more mindful of the present moment. It’ll help you deal with things at the right time for you, for your family and your career.

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