Tweens Behavior & Emotions Metacognition and How It Relates to Your Tween By Rebecca Fraser-Thill Rebecca Fraser-Thill LinkedIn Twitter Rebecca Fraser-Thill holds a Master's Degree in developmental psychology and writes about child development and tween parenting. Learn about our editorial process Updated on March 06, 2021 Fact checked by Cara Lustik Fact checked by Cara Lustik LinkedIn Cara Lustik is a fact-checker and copywriter. She has more than 15 years of experience crafting stories in the branding, licensing, and entertainment industries. Learn about our editorial process Print Jupiterimages/Digital Vision/Getty Images Invariably, tweens, like all of us, will face situations that make them feel overwhelmed and often defeated—such as a looming test or a challenging social situation. Their first response to these common dilemmas may be to assume they simply can't find a solution, which sets them up for failure. The way to combat this type of negative thinking is to use what are known as metacognitive abilities, which are a normal part of development. Metacognition allows us to self-reflect, monitor our thoughts, and come up with practical solutions to problems. What Is Metacognition? Metacognition, essentially, allows us to know what we know, to think about thinking, and to understand our sense of self. Tweens tend to have relatively strong metacognitive abilities compared to young children, but these skills are still being learned, and they can be sharpened with help from parents and teachers. Metacognitive processes include planning, monitoring one's own thoughts, problem-solving, making decisions, and evaluating one's thought processes. It also involves the use of strategies for remembering information. Metacognition is vital to the learning process and is an important part of your child's emotional maturity. Parenting Tweens Tweens who have stronger metacognitive skills tend to perform better academically than tweens with weaker skills. Such skills may also benefit students outside of the classroom, such as when they're interacting with friends and may face peer pressure, or when they start taking on small jobs or responsibilities. These thinking skills can also help tweens as they determine whether a decision they're about to make is good or bad, even if peer pressure isn't involved. How You Can Encourage the Metacognitive Process Kids who perceive themselves as being “good” or “bad” at particular tasks may decide they either can do it or they can’t when it comes to a specific challenge, and that they don't have any control over the outcome. For example, a child may say to himself, "Writing book reports makes me anxious." Using metacognitive skills might lead him to dig deeper and be more proactive, thinking, "What is it about book reports that make me feel anxious and what can I do to change that?" You can support the development of metacognition by encouraging your children to reflect on their own thoughts and actions. You might ask, "How did you make that decision?" or "What strategy did you use to remember what to buy at the store?" Try to work these questions into your daily activities or routines, such as during family dinner time. In general, these questions should be: Non-blamingOpen-endedSolution-focusedProcess-oriented Children raised in households in which parents are authoritarian, or attend schools in which teachers or administrators are, may struggle to develop productive thinking skills. If students are simply taught to obey orders, not question the decisions of the adults around them or to "do as I say, not as I do," they may not spend much time reflecting on their thought processes. Similarly, the proverbial "helicopter parents" who follow their child's every move for fear of a misstep are not helping them develop metacognitive skills. Kids need to be allowed to make their own decisions, reflect on their thought processes, and develop their own set of problem-solving skills. Teaching Teens to Make Good Decisions A Word From Verywell As children grow, they will face increasingly complex dilemmas in life and in the classroom. The development of metacognitive skills can usher your children through challenges and help your tween on the path to maturity. If you think you're doing your best to help your child make decisions independently and he still seems to struggle with metacognition, discuss the issue with your child's teacher. Find out if the teacher can provide you with books, worksheets, or activities designed to improve metacognition. If you suspect that something else is to blame for why your child struggles with metacognition, talk to his teacher about the possibility of him having a learning disability. If that's the case, the school can have him evaluated and help him get the tools he needs to boost his problem-solving skills. How to Help Kids Learn Problem-Solving Skills 5 Sources Verywell Family uses only high-quality sources, including peer-reviewed studies, to support the facts within our articles. Read our editorial process to learn more about how we fact-check and keep our content accurate, reliable, and trustworthy. U.S. Department of Education, Office of Career, Technical, and Adult Education (OCTAE). TEAL Center Fact Sheet No. 4: Metacognitive Processes. van der Stel M, Veenman MVJ. Metacognitive skills and intellectual ability of young adolescents: A longitudinal study from a developmental perspective. 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