Ideas for Memorial Garden Flowers for Your Baby

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If you're searching for a way to memorialize your baby after a miscarriage or stillbirth, planting a memorial garden can be a beautiful option. Creating the garden can be a way to work through your loss. When your garden blooms again in upcoming years, you may find comfort and hope in it.

Choosing Flowers for Your Memorial Garden

When it comes to selecting the flowers for your garden, there are several factors to consider. For example, you might consider the types of flowers that grow best in your region and the size of your memorial garden. Certain flowers seem to lend themselves to memorial gardens, such as bleeding heart, forget-me-not, and baby’s breath. 

The Meanings of Flowers

Several cultures have assigned specific meanings to flowers, notably in Japanese tradition and in English Victorian tradition. These flowers with cultural meanings might be particularly appropriate for a child’s memorial garden. This list is by no means exhaustive but it can serve as a starting place to get you thinking about what flowers you'd like to include.

Type of Flower or Plant Common Meaning or Significance
Acacia Eternal Love
Aloe Grief
Alyssum Grace
Amaranth Immortality, everlasting
Anemone Resurrection
Aster God's grace, love, blessings
Baby's Breath Sweet, gentle, innocent
Balm Sympathy
Bellflower "Thinking of you”
Black-Eyed Susan Encouragement
Camellia Perfected Loveliness
Columbine Gentleness
Crocus Hope
Cypress Mourning, sorrow
Daffodil Resurrection
Daisy Innocence
Delphinium Devotion, blessings
Ferns Peace, acceptance, grace, serenity, gentility, quietude
Forget-Me-Nots Memories
Fuchsia Harmony, healing for those who grieve, angels
Geranium Comfort
Gladioli Sincerity
Heather Solitude
Heliotrope Devotion

Honeysuckle

Devoted affection, bonds of love
Impatiens Patience, steadfastness, loving-kindness
Iris Inspiration
Ivy Fidelity, endurance
Jasmine Peace, goodwill, and healing
Larkspur Beautiful spirit
Lavender Devotion
Lily Faith, grace, and spiritual healing
Lily of the Valley Sweetness
Lisianthus Calming
Marigold Pain and grief
Nasturtium Protection
Olive Peace
Pansies Gentle thoughts
Peonies Thoughts of the past, memories
Petunia Peace, harmony, serenity, uplifting of the body and soul

Pink Rose

Grace
Poppies Eternal sleep, consolation

Queen Anne’s Lace

Femininity
Red & White Rose Unity
Tulips Faith, hope, and charity
Verbena Peace
Violets Shyness, humility, quiet joy, tender thoughts, gentle love

Rosemary

Remembrance

Star of Bethlehem

Hope
Sweetpea Shyness, farewell
Thyme Peace
White Lilac Youthful innocence, memories
White Lily Purity
White Rose Purity
White Tulip Forgiveness

Birthday Month Flowers

Each month of the year also has one or more flowers associated with it. Choosing the flower for your baby’s birth month, due month, or conception month is another option for choosing meaningful flowers for your memorial garden.

Month Flower
January Carnation
February Iris, violet, primrose
March Daffodil
April Daisy
May Lily of the valley
June Rose
July Larkspur, water lily, sweet pea, delphinium
August Gladiolus
September Aster, forget-me-not
October Calendula (marigold)
November Chrysanthemum
December Holly, poinsettia

Planting Your Favorite Flowers

While symbolism can lend a hand in choosing flowers for your memorial garden, there are no hard and fast rules that you have to include a flower for its symbolic meaning or association with a certain month of the year. If you have a favorite flower and it makes you think about your baby in a happy way, then absolutely use the flower that feels right to you. If you prefer vibrant reds to the more traditional whites or violets, those are the colors that you should include in your memorial garden.

If you have other children, you may plant a tree or flower for each of them to tend and watch grow, surrounded by the flowers that memorialize the child you lost. The most important thing to remember is that this should be a project that helps with your healing process. There are no "wrong" flowers to choose.

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