The 5 Best Self-Help Books for Teenage Girls of 2022

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Today's teens face mounting pressures and expectations from school, society, and yes, even parents. In fact, their stress levels are on par with those of adults, according to the American Psychological Association.

Self-help books can guide your teenager through the ups and downs of being an adolescent in today's fast-paced, tech-driven world. When choosing self-help books for your teen girl, look for books that are inspiring and relatable for teenagers. The right book has the potential to change your daughter's life.

Here, the best self-help books for teenage girls.

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Chocolate For A Teen's Soul: Life-changing Stories For Young Women About Growing Wise And Growing Strong

Chocolate For A Teen's Soul: Life-changing Stories For Young Women About Growing Wise And Growing Strong Paperback – August 8, 2000

Chocolate for a Teen's Soul features 55 tales of life and love as a teenager from bestselling author Kay Allenbaugh. Highlights from this collection include stories of best friends, first loves and heartbreaks, and the hope gleaned in navigating the real world and finding a first job.

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The Real Rules for Girls

The Real Rules for Girls

The bold and brassy writing style of author Mindy Morgenstern empowers teenage girls to think for themselves and take control of their own lives. Featuring inspiring quotes from powerful women, The Real Rules for Girls offers nuggets of wisdom such as "The football captains of today are the burger jockeys of tomorrow," and advice like "You be the judge, Judy." Even parents will benefit from this much-needed reminder: "Everyone's family is as freaky as yours."

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Guys and a Whole Lot More: Advice for Teen Girls on Almost Everything!

Guys and a Whole Lot More: Advice for Teen Girls on Almost Everything!

In a Q&A format, author Susie Shellenberger tackles common issues that preoccupy the mind of a typical teenage girl. Writing especially for Christian teens, Shellenberger chronicles everything from boys to braces to biological changes, and covers important topics like body image.

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A Girl's Guide to Growing Up: Making the Right Choices

A Girl's Guide to Growing Up: Making the Right Choices Paperback – March, 2000

Author Judith Greenberg begins each chapter with a poem by a teenage girl. A Girl's Guide to Growing Up covers complex issues like school, risky behaviors, dating, sex, self-esteem, eating disorders, and cliques. Drawing from real-life examples and situations, Greenberg includes expert guidance and advice from counselors, doctors, and consultants.

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Get Over It! How To Survive Break-ups, Back Stabbing Friends, And Bad Haircuts

Get Over It! How To Survive Break-ups, Back Stabbing Friends, And Bad (Teen Magazine) Mass Market Paperback – July 1, 2000

A contributing editor at Teen magazine, author Beth Mayall uses quizzes, top ten lists, and sidebar notes to deliver customizable advice to teenage girls. The theme throughout Get Over It is simple: Calmly confront the problem, express your feelings and needs, and move on to a solution—even if it means saying goodbye to a relationship or abandoning a plan.

What to Look for in Self-Help Books for Teenage Girls


Teenagers tend to have heightened emotions. We can look at that as a challenge to deal with or we can see it as a gift. These years are a unique time for deep feelings. Teens' minds are perhaps more open than any other time in their lives as they search for meaning. Inspiring books that touch their emotions may help them navigate rough patches as they discover more about who they are.

Practical Advice

Books that help teens know specifically what to do to work towards self-improvement can be very effective. Think checklists and step-by-step plans. These kinds of books empower teens and let them tangibly see the fruits of their efforts.


No one is quicker to roll their eyes than a teenager. This doesn't mean they have a bad attitude (well, not always), but rather that they are most interested in reading material that connects to their lives and experiences. Look for books aimed directly at teens that meet them on their level, without sounding patronizing or too fluffy. Teens will gravitate towards texts that address issues they see in their own lives, like friendship conflicts, romantic relationships, and fitting in.

Frequently Asked Questions

  • How can I help my teenage girl's confidence?

    Teen girls often experience a drop in confidence, but parents have the power to help turn that around. To help your daughter keep her self-esteem high, compliment her on how much effort she puts into things like sports and classes, rather than only how well they turn out. Model healthy confidence by showing her how you assert yourself and talk with her about your family values.

  • How can I teach my teenager to be more independent?

    Teenagers definitely want their independence, but they don't always know how to properly take care of themselves yet. Prepare them for adulthood (because it's just around the corner) by teaching them skills like budgeting and cleaning. Letting them get a part-time job or having them shop for and cook family dinner once a week will help them learn to be successful when they are off on their own.

  • My teen has low self-esteem. What can I do?

    Many teens struggle with low self-esteem, but parents can make a big difference in how their children feel about themselves. Encourage self-improvement by giving your child books on the topic and discussing them. Help your teen find new things to learn and teach them how to speak positively to themselves.

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