The Scoop on Tween Discipline

Disciplining children is never easy, but it can be especially hard when a tween is involved. While tweens are known for volatile moods and unpredictable behavior, there are ways to help your child learn how to manage emotions and live with the rules you've established for him. Below are several suggestions on discipline, children, and dealing with tween discipline, tween anger, tween back talk, and tween curfews.


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All children require discipline, no matter their developmental stage. Tweens, in particular, should be very aware of the consequences of their actions and behaviors. If you're the parent or caregiver of a tween, you can count on one thing: your tween will act out. How you react to your child will decide whether or not the behavior will get worse over time or improve with your attention and help. Discipline, children and tween behavior can take a lot out of a parent, so be sure you take the necessary steps needed every day to take care of yourself so that you can take care of your tween. Sleep, nutrition, and exercise are as important to you as they are for your child.



Eye rolling is just the beginning. Before your tween makes it out of the preteen years she'll be an expert at back talk. Yuck. But hang in there, this is a great opportunity for you to teach your child social skills, personal responsibility, empathy, and scores of other necessary lessons. Here are a few simple strategies to use when your tween cops an attitude or talks back to you or someone else.



Curfews are a great way for tweens to learn the rules of the house. And they're necessary in order to teach your tween self-discipline. Curfews are also necessary to keep your child safe and prevent him from finding himself in situations he can't yet handle. Here's what you need to know about tweens and their curfews.



Tweens are known for having volatile emotions, and it's no wonder. Think about all the changes your child is going through. You'd be moody, too. But you can help your tween keep anger under control. And that makes living with tweens so much more enjoyable.



Children who are well disciplined understand that they have to help out around the house. Teaching your tween to tackle household chores helps your child learn about self-discipline and also about being a member of a team. Make sure your tween understands that household chores should be a part of his daily routine, even during the school year. And let your child know how proud you are when he tackles chores without being reminded.



There's no avoiding it in this day and age—cursing is everywhere. But that doesn't mean your tween has to use inappropriate language or language that you find offensive. Minimize tween cursing by setting a good example yourself, explaining why it's wrong to curse, and enforcing household consequences for breaking the rules.