A Social Media Contract for Tweens and Parents

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You've established rules for your tween for when he or she's at home, school or a friend's house, but you also need to set clear rules for when your child is online. If you haven't yet, don't worry. But do take the time to jot down the guidelines your tween must follow for when he or she is on the Internet, or engaged in texting or other forms of social media. The contract below can help you establish rules and behavior for both you and your tween, so that healthy habits are established from the beginning. Be sure to edit or add to the document as necessary for your specific situation or family challenges.

Social Media Contract for Tweens

  • I understand the using social media is a privilege and not a right. I understand that my privileges may be revoked by my parent(s) or guardian(s) at any time for bad behavior, uncooperative behavior, or for allowing my grades to fall, or for failure to chip in and help with family chores and responsibilities. 
  • I understand that I should never use social media to torment or harass a schoolmate, teacher, or any other person. I will not participate in online fights, threaten others, or encourage others to behave badly. 
  • I understand that my parent(s) or guardian(s) have the right to review my online behavior and that they should have access to my password and accounts. 
  • I understand that I will not use inappropriate language on social media or post photos that could be embarrassing to myself, my family members, friends, or classmates. 
  • I understand that I should keep my parent(s) or guardian(s) informed if others are using social media to bully, threaten or harass me.
  • I understand that the best policy regarding social media is, "If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all."
  • I understand that I will get my parent(s) or guardian(s) permission before establishing an account with a social media site such as Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram.
  • I understand that bad behavior on social media could reflect poorly on me and my family.

Social Media Contract for Parents or Guardians

  • I promise to help my child identify the pros and cons of using social media.
  • I promise that I will check my child's social media accounts on occasion to be sure that he/she is staying safe and behaving appropriately on social media.
  • I promise not to overreact if I see something on social media that concerns me. Rather, I will calmly discuss the matter with my tween and work through the situation together.
  • I promise that my child may come to me at any time to troubleshoot a social media challenge, such as bullying, taunting, or other bad behaviors. 
  • I promise that should my child break our social media rules I will enforce fair but firm consequences for the behavior. 
  • I promise to set a good example on how to behave on social media for my child by avoiding profanity, mean-spiritedness, bullying, sarcastic, or other antisocial behaviors or attitudes. social behaviors or attitudes. 
  • I promise to take immediate action if I determine that my child's safety is in any way in question due to social media, which may include confiscating my child's phone, contacting my child's school or local law enforcement officials if necessary.

Signed: ______________________ (Parent's Signature)



Signed: _______________________(Tween's Signature)


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