10 Signs Your Toddler Is Ready to Potty Train

Your child's age is less important than their emotional and physical readiness

Many parents of toddlers wonder when to start potty training their children. While most children indicate they are ready to start toilet training between 18 months and 3 years old, some aren't ready until a bit older—and age isn't the sole determining factor for when to start potty training. In fact, the best potty training age will vary quite a bit from child to child and depends on both physical and emotional factors.

Your child will get there on their own timetable—and with lots of practice. Like drinking from a cup or using a spoon, using the potty is a skill that must be learned. It is best accomplished when your child has developed emotionally and physically to the point where they are ready to take on using the bathroom independently.

Starting potty training before your child is ready can backfire and lead to frustration for everyone involved. Rushing the process can ultimately result in potty training taking longer to complete, so it really helps to tune into the signals indicating readiness. Every child is different, but these are common signs of potty training readiness to help you know when your child is ready.

Your Child Shows Interest

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Firstly, your child needs to show an interest and desire to learn to use the potty.

Some ways they may do this:

  • They are interested in keeping dry or clean
  • They are curious about what you are doing when you go to the bathroom
  • They want to wear "big kid" underwear

You can spur this interest along by reading children's books and watching videos about using the potty, and talking about it as you go about your daily parenting life.

Modeling healthy toileting habits encourages your child to work toward this behavior as well. However, pushing the topic too much could be counterproductive.

The 18-month to 3-year readiness range is big, and where your child will fall depends on a variety of largely uncontrollable factors. Looking closely for signs of interest can help you find the best time to start for your child.

Your Child Stays Dry

When your child stays dry for two hours or more when awake and/or wakes up with dry diapers, it shows that their bladder capacity and control are increasing, which are important for toilet training.

In fact, studies show a strong relationship between a child's physical readiness for potty training and their ability to routinely keep their diaper dry during naps.

Note that the super absorbent diapers many children wear may make it more challenging to tell if they are truly dry, so you may need to check closely.

They Know When They Go

If a child isn't really aware of what they are doing, they are unable to control the process of doing it. This applies to peeing and pooping as much as anything else.

Look for your child's own awareness of going to the bathroom, instead of using your own ability to notice their "tells" like a red face or making a certain expression.

Pretty clear signs that your child recognizes when they need to go or are in the process of going:

  • They head to a private room to pee or poop
  • They hide behind furniture or curtains to go
  • They point to or touch their diaper as they are peeing or pooping

They're Showing Their Independence

Once your toddler starts saying things like “I can do it myself"—particularly when it comes to potty habits, but also in other realms like feeding and dressing—they are probably ready to start toilet training.

Your child's independence can also be displayed as an interest in trying new things.

Social awareness plays a role here as well. For example, being aware of toileting behaviors of others (like an older sibling or friend) can prompt them to want to model those habits.

If your child is going through changes or stressors, like a transition to a new home, a divorce, or having a new baby in the house, you may want to hold off on potty training until your child is feeling more secure

Your Child Can Undress

To potty train, your child must be able to easily pull their pants up and down. They may not have had any reason to do so in the past, but this skill is usually easy to learn.

However, for some toddlers, mastering the motor skills necessary for undressing and dressing may take a bit more time.

Make this step simpler for your child by avoiding dressing them in clothing that may be more difficult to take off and put on during toilet training, such as tights, rompers, undershirts with crotch snaps, and pants with belts, ties, or zippers.

Additionally, letting them choose the clothes they want to wear may make them more motivated to keep these items clean and dry.

They Can Follow Directions

To adults, going to the bathroom is simple. But some kids can be challenged by the many steps involved—noticing the urge to go, finding the bathroom in time, turning on the light, pulling down pants and underwear, sitting on the potty, going, wiping, flushing the toilet, then washing their hands.

Remember that this is not simply about the willingness to follow multi-step directions but rather about the ability to do so, which takes time.

Your Child Can Sit Still

Using the toilet, especially to poop, requires a bit of patience. Your child should be able to sit and engage in an activity for several minutes without becoming distracted or irritable.

To help your child stay on the potty, you can have some books on hand for them to page through.

They Can Communicate

Children also must be able to communicate that they need to go by either telling you with words or signals that they need to get to the bathroom.

Their ability to tell you they need the potty is key to you being able to help them, particularly when you are away from home and a restroom may not be readily accessible.

They Can Walk and Run Well

Since the urge to use the bathroom is often sudden in toddlers and a potty isn't always a few steps away, it's important for your child to be able to make it to the toilet before an accident occurs. If they are still struggling to walk and run, they aren't ready.

They Hide to Poop

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If your little one starts going behind a chair or seeking out a corner in the house to squat down and do their business in their diaper, it's likely time to potty train them. This is a clear sign that they feel the urge to go and then associate it with going somewhere first. All you have to do is help them change that association to heading to a toilet and pulling their pants down.

They Can Remember a Sequence

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A toilet-trained child needs to first recognize the need to go and them remember a sequence of events to follow. They need to get to a bathroom, pull down their pants, and sit on the toilet. Only then can they release their pee or poop.

Although remembering all this in order may seem easy to most adults, many toddlers have not developed the ability to sequence events yet. If they are following simple routines at home or memorizing nursery rhymes, that's a readiness sign.

You know your child best. Try to resist pressure from other people to potty train when you don't feel it's time. Conversely, don't let others to you to hold off when you know your little one is ready.

Grandparents, daycare teachers, and fellow parents may have good intentions, but remember that this is your decision to make. A simple, "Thank you so much for your advice, but this is working for our family right now," will usually stop overly the zealous advice-giver.

A Word From Verywell

Figuring out when your child is ready to potty train can be challenging. But once you know the signs to look for, you'll have a much better sense of when to usher them into the world of bathroom independence. Remember, while it's an exciting prospect to get your toddler out of diapers, it's best to wait until they are physically and emotionally ready. Once they are, you'll be much more likely to have a successful and speedy transition to using the toilet.

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