Reasons Dads Should Demand a Doula

How a doula can help dads cope in the delivery room

A woman in the hospital.
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You may feel hurt when your wife tells you she wants a doula to help her through her pregnancy and labor. After all, what can a doula provide that you can't? Here are some reasons you might find yourself grateful for your wife's doula.

The Doula Can Give You a Break 

You may think it will easy enough to stay awake for a big event like childbirth. But depending on how long your wife's labor lasts, you may find yourself fighting to keep your eyes open. A doula can really be a huge help in such a situation. With your wife's blessing, run to the bathroom or take a nap so that you can regain the energy and focus necessary to help out when the big moment arrives. 

You Don't Have to Remember Everything

The doula actually remembers what she learned in childbirth class. Even if you paid attention in childbirth class, you may find that you can't remember everything in the heat of the moment. Don't worry. Your doula remembers everything about how to make the labor as pleasant and problem-free as possible.

Doulas Will Remember for You 

The doula knows the right questions to ask, and the right information to give. When you arrive at the hospital, you will be bombarded with questions, and you won't necessarily be in the best frame of mind in which to adequately answer them. You'll feel relieved when you can let your doula take charge. Your doula can also be very helpful in getting information, ensuring you have enough information to make any necessary decisions.

A Doula Speaks the Language of Labor

Nurses and doctors can often revert to using medical terminology that you don't necessarily understand. Your doula can be a huge help in translating such unfamiliar jargon.

A Doula Keeps You Calm

Labor is often hard. You can't help but worry sometimes. It's just the beginning of a being a parent, which necessitates a lifetime's worth of worrying. Your doula can show you how and where to touch your wife in order to keep her calm. Your doula can model how to behave quietly and efficiently. Your doula can make you look good.

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