Questions to Ask at Parent-Teacher Conferences

Parents: Get Involved

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Parent-teacher conferences are a missed opportunity if there is no parental involvement. Conferences are a time where you can learn more about your child's individual learning style, their relationships with others, what they are learning and even about the teacher's background and teaching style.

If you merely sit back and listen, you'll still sure to learn about your child, but you might miss some key things you should know.

Rather than spending that time being spoken to, get involved and ask questions. There are a number of questions you can ask at an upcoming parent-teacher conference that will leave you with valuable information and the tools to make your child's school year a successful one.

Questions to Ask at a Parent-Teacher Conference:

  • What skills are being addressed right now and how does that tie in to the overall goal for the year?
  • How is my child doing keeping up in class?
  • How is my child getting along with other children?
  • Could you outline the schedule of a typical day/class period for me?
  • What kinds of testing should I expect my child to participate in this year?
  • Does this testing have an impact on my child's academic future or how they are graded?
  • What can I do at home to reinforce what my child is learning?
  • What type of discipline plan do you use in the classroom?
  • What are your views on homework and what is your homework policy?

    If Your Child Isn't Challenged:

      If Your Child Is Struggling Academically:

      • At what level is my child performing in his academic subjects?
      • What types of supports are available to help him keep up with his grade-level peers?
      • Do you have any insight as to what may be causing his difficulties?
      • Do you think a referral for Special Education evaluation is appropriate?

      If You (or Your Child) Don't Get Along With the Teacher:

      • How is my child's attitude in the classroom? Are they respectful and following rules and expectations?
      • Do you feel that you and my child are having trouble working well together?
      • Can we discuss why we seem to have trouble working smoothly together?
      • What do you think you and I (or you and my child) can do to make this year successful?
      • I'd like to share with you my concerns about [what I see, your teaching style, etc.] in your classroom.

      If Your Child Is Having Trouble With Peers:

      • Does my child interact with other children?
      • Do you see that he or she has any friends?
      • Is my child having trouble with specific groups of children?
      • Do you feel my child is being bullied?
      • Can you tell me what your thoughts are about my child's difficulties with socialization?
      • Is there a friendship or peer skills group in which my child can participate?