Create an Effective Reward System for Kids of All Ages

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While rewarding your child may be the last thing on your mind when you're dealing with misbehavior, reward systems can be one of the best ways to change a child's behavior. And the best news is, reward systems usually work fast.

Reward systems also work for children of all ages. So, whether your preschooler has gotten into the habit of hitting, or your teenager keeps forgetting to do their chores, a simple reward system can help them become more responsible for their behavior.

Little Kids

Toddlers and preschoolers benefit from simple sticker charts. Allow your child to decorate a piece of paper and use that as your chart. If he takes part in coloring it or designing it, he'll be more invested in earning stickers.

You can also increase their motivation by choosing stickers they'll love. You might even let them choose the stickers themself. Just make sure you don't hand over any stickers until they earn them. 

Keep the sticker chart prominently displayed. Preschoolers are often very proud of their accomplishments and want to ensure everyone is aware they have earned stickers. Use praise to motivate them to keep earning stickers.

Choose one behavior to work on at a time and establish a simple goal to start.

Behaviors that can work well with a sticker chart include things such as using the toilet and staying in their own bed at night. Provide a sticker immediately after you see the desired behavior to provide positive reinforcement for good behavior.

School-Age Children

Stickers alone aren't usually enough to motivate school-age children. They require tangible rewards to stay motivated.

But they can also handle more complex reward systems. So you can tackle bigger goals or even more than one behavior at a time. 

You can use a sticker chart the same you would with a younger child and then allow your child to trade stickers in for bigger rewards. Here are some examples:

  • A 7-year-old earns stickers for making their bed. Once they earn three stickers they can go to the playground.
  • A 9-year-old earns stickers for getting her homework done before dinner. Then, stickers can be exchanged for TV time. 

Just make sure your child earns rewards on a regular basis. Some school-age children still need daily rewards, while others can wait several days to get an incentive.

Explain the reward system to your child. Make sure she knows it's a positive strategy, rather than a punishment.

Try saying something like, “When you earn three stickers, we will go to the park to play. This is how you earn stickers…” Allow your child an opportunity to ask questions and become involved in suggesting rewards she wants to earn.


Tweens can benefit from more complicated systems with bigger rewards. But remember, rewards don’t have to cost money. Screen time or a later bedtime on the weekends can be big motivators.

Tweens may feel too old for “stickers” so you can use a system where they earn checkmarks or tokens. A token economy system allows them to earn tokens throughout the day that can be exchanged for reward items. For example, two tokens may be equivalent to thirty minutes of television.

Choose up to three behaviors to address at a time. Pick at least one behavior that your child already does fairly well. This can help your child feel successful, which is key to keeping a tween motivated.


Teenagers will outgrow formal reward charts and systems. However, this doesn’t mean you have to get rid of reward systems altogether. Create a behavior management contract to link privileges to specific behavior.

For example, link your teen's ability to go to the movies with their friends to get their homework done on time all week. Or, only allow your teen to borrow the car when they get their chores done consistently.

Electronics are also another privilege that works well for many teens. Consider giving cellphone privileges each day only after their homework and chores are completed. Just make sure that you establish clear rules ahead of time so your child understands what you expect each day.

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Additional Reading
  • Webster-Stratton C. The Incredible Years: parents, teachers, and children's training series: program content, methods, research and dissemination 1980-2011. Seattle, WA: Incredible Years; 2011.

  • Positive Reinforcement Through Rewards