Do People Touch Your Pregnant Belly?

Hands off the pregnant belly!

Two women touching a pregnant belly

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The belly is everywhere. No matter where you go these days you see pregnant women and the pregnant belly. That's actually something that would have been surprising not too far back in the past. Even as recently as 50 years ago women thought that pregnancy made them delicate enough to stay at home more often than not, and the recovery from childbirth left a woman hospitalized for weeks after a normal birth. Today, women are proud to know that pregnancy is just another natural process is their lives and carry on living as such.

With this public appearance of pregnant women came public opinion on everything in their lives from how they dress, what the eat or drink and how their bellies are growing. One of the most often heard complaints from pregnant women is unwanted advice from strangers and the seeming need for strangers to touch their swollen abdomens.

Some women feel that short of wearing a sign around their necks that say "Hands off the belly!" there isn't much they can to do ward off this unwanted touching or advice. Here are some other options from other experienced moms on dealing with the public opinion of pregnancy:

Belly Touching

"I just keep an eye out for hands coming towards me and quickly divert my belly or their attention," says Amanda, mom of four.

Sally, mother-to-be of her first, says "Patting their belly back has stunned a few people at work into stopping this annoying adventure."

"I try to look at it as them trying to share the experience," offers Laura, awaiting her second baby. "They aren't trying to be mean, they are just excited for me."

"'Back off!'" smiles another mom-to-be. "You'd be surprised at how screaming this can make people move away."


Dealing With Unsolicited Opinions & Questions

Unwanted Advice

"I usually just smile and nod while they talk, whether I'm listening or not," Gail suggests. "This usually keeps them from telling you why they are right and you are wrong. It's the easiest way out!"

"If they are saying something I know is wrong I usually tell them my doctor said that's not for me," Sally explains. "This can sometimes lead to some lessons learned for them."

"In one ear and out the other," says Leeza, mom of three, with a wave of her hand.

Angelia says that sometimes listening isn't a bad thing, "I did learn some very handy things from other mothers on managing day-to-day with the baby. The only thing that annoyed me was the old wive's tales."

No matter how you choose to handle the hands and words during your days of expecting, remember that when you start to show, you'll need a strategy.

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