Do Men Make Good Childcare Providers?

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While being a male childcare provider is not a new concept, finding men who are experienced as full-time childcare professionals are still far and few between. However, there is no reason a male can't have a successful career as a family childcare provider or even a manny.

Gender Roles and Child Care Providers

As traditional gender roles and careers continue to change, society is much more accepting of men as nurses, teachers, flight attendants, and other jobs previously held by females. The same is true of a male childcare provider. While it may catch some parents off-guard initially, families who utilize men as childcare providers often express extreme satisfaction about the care of their children.

Like any job, performance and overall comfort level of a care provider charged with caring for kids are based on qualifications, experience, how a person interacts with and responds to children, essential caregiver services, and the ability to keep kids safe, happy and healthy. Gender shouldn't be the consideration; overall qualifications are the key criteria that should be judged when choosing a childcare provider or nanny.
Still, to overcome any hesitancy on the part of parents, male childcare providers may choose to be extra-organized and detailed to provide an extra level of trust with parents. Potential families will know plans for daily activities; how the caregiver will respond to certain situations; how mealtimes, playtimes, and naptimes are coordinated; disciplinary approaches; and whether the provider has the ability to multitask various childcare situations simultaneously.

In addition, men may want to initiate conversations about sexual predators and agree to a background check to allay any potential concerns a parent may have about gender and contact appropriateness. Parents may have an initial sense of discomfort about a male changing the diaper of a female child, for example, that they may be hesitant in bringing up. (Parents should always bear in mind that sexual predators can be women as well as men.) Since men today are often charged with the same parenting responsibilities as women, any uneasiness can often be dispelled through honest, upfront conversations.

Male childcare providers should take appropriate childcare training, and be prepared to discuss their first-aid and CPR qualifications among any early childhood training or special qualifications they may have.
Parents using male care providers often talk about how the male presence is a strong positive for their child. Like with any childcare provider, the ultimate decision is whether parents and the child are comfortable and happy about a particular arrangement and schedule and feel a rapport with the provider (male or female) they choose.​​

Updated by Jill Ceder

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