Breastfeeding Your Husband, Boyfriend, or Partner

When It's OK and the Reasons Some Couples Consider It

Couple cuddling in bed: Is it OK to breastfeed your husband or partner?

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Generally speaking, breastfeeding your husband, boyfriend, or partner is OK. It's not perverted or wrong if you want your spouse to breastfeed, or if your partner asks to taste your breast milk and try breastfeeding.

Many men are curious about breastfeeding, and they're still sexually interested in the breasts even when they're producing breast milk. Plus, many women are more sensitive to breast stimulation during this time and enjoy the sensation of breastfeeding their partners.

Sharing this intimate experience with your husband, boyfriend, or partner can be satisfying for both of you, and it can even bring you closer together as a couple. So, except for a few circumstances when you shouldn't do it, it's OK to breastfeed your partner.

Concerns About Breastfeeding Your Partner

It's normal to have some concerns about breastfeeding your partner. For example, you may wonder if you'll have enough breast milk to nurse your baby if your partner also breastfeeds, especially if you struggle with your milk supply. But the additional stimulation at your breast can actually help you to make more breast milk. You can also breastfeed your baby first to be sure they get a full feeding before spending time with your partner.

Whatever your concerns may be, it's best to talk to your partner about how you feel. By having an open line of communication and working it out together, any experiences that you choose to have will be better for both of you.

Reasons Why Your Partner Would Want to Breastfeed

While some men are not at all interested in their partner's milk-filled breasts, others are curious about breastfeeding, interested in the taste of breast milk, or simply turned on by lactating breasts. This interest is perfectly normal.

Here are some of the reasons that your partner may want to breastfeed:

  • Health benefits: There are many health benefits associated with breast milk. Breast milk is even used as a medical treatment for certain conditions. Breastfeeding could potentially boost your partner's immune system as well as provide some nutritional value.
  • Fulfilling a fantasy: Your partner may be turned on by your lactating breasts, or they may have a sexual fantasy that involves breastfeeding. Erotic lactation and adult breastfeeding (adult nursing) websites and groups exist just for this purpose. So, as long as you feel comfortable, this is a fantasy that you can safely fulfill for your partner.
  • To feel more included: Now that you're breastfeeding, your partner may feel as though your breasts are off-limits, or reserved for the relationship you share with your baby. By giving your partner access to your breasts and breastfeeding, they can feel included in the experience.
  • To taste breast milk: Some partners just want to know how breast milk tastes. And, since breast milk is typically creamy and sweet, they may even like the flavor.

Reasons a You May Want Your Partner to Breastfeed

If you've been thinking about asking your husband or partner to breastfeed, you're not alone. Some women are curious about how it would feel to breastfeed their partner or they just want to continue to include their breasts in their intimate relationship. Don't worry; it's not wrong, and here are a few reasons why some women consider it:

  • Balance out uneven breasts: If your baby has a breast preference or one of your breasts does not make as much milk as the other one, your partner can help to even out your breasts by breastfeeding on the smaller or neglected side.
  • Boost breast milk supply: The additional stimulation and removal of milk at your breast can naturally trigger your body to make more breast milk.
  • Drain the breast: Your partner will have a stronger suck than your baby, so they may be able to empty all the areas of your breast. Better draining of the breasts can help remove or prevent plugged milk ducts and nipple blebs. It could also relieve mild breast engorgement.
  • For greater support: Your partner may offer you more help and support if they feel included in the breastfeeding process, or if they feel as though your decision and desire to breastfeed has benefits for them, as well. 
  • Heighten arousal: Some women are sensitive to breast or nipple stimulation and may experience sexual feelings while breastfeeding. Breastfeeding your partner could bring about an unexpected and enjoyable aspect of your sexual relationship.
  • Increase intimacy: Breastfeeding your husband or partner may bring you closer together on an intimate level. Sharing this part of your body and your life with your husband could be a very special and satisfying experience.

When Not to Breastfeed Your Partner

In general, breastfeeding your husband, boyfriend, or partner doesn't pose a problem. However, it is not recommended in some circumstances.

You Feel Uncomfortable

You should never feel like you are being forced to do something that you do not want to do. Talk to your partner about your feelings and seek help from a healthcare professional if necessary.

You Have Pain

If you have sore nipples, the strength of an adult's suck can be even more painful than that of a baby. If your nipples are very sensitive, you have a painful let-down reflex, or your partner bites down on your nipples, you could develop a breast infection, or it could interfere with your ability and desire to continue breastfeeding your baby.

Your Breasts Are Engorged

If your breasts are engorged, breastfeeding your partner may feel like a relief. However, the extra breast stimulation can cause your body to produce even more breast milk and add to your already overabundant milk supply.

You Are HIV Positive or You Have an Infectious Disease

HIV and other infectious diseases can enter your breast milk and pass on to your partner. Some sexually transmitted diseases can also spread through contact at the breast, especially if you have active sores on your breasts, nipples, or areola. Your partner should be aware of any risks involved.

Your Partner Has an Infectious Disease, Infection, or Virus

If your partner has a health issue, especially one that's transmitted through the mouth, they can give it to you and your baby through contact at the breast. Do not breastfeed your partner if they have a health condition that can infect you or your child.

You or Your Baby Have Thrush

A yeast infection can pass quickly to your partner and back to you. If you, your child, or your partner develop any of the signs of thrush, call your doctor. You should all receive treatment as soon as possible.

You Are Pregnant and High Risk

If you're pregnant with multiples, you've had a previous miscarriage, or you have a history of preterm labor, avoid any stimulation at the breast. Breast and nipple stimulation can lead to uterine contractions and early labor if your pregnancy is considered high risk.

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