Breastfeeding Your Husband or Intimate Partner

When It's OK and the Reasons Some Couples Consider It

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Generally speaking, breastfeeding your husband or partner is OK. It's not perverted or wrong if you want the person you are intimate with to breastfeed, or if they ask to try breastfeeding or taste your breast milk.

Many adults are curious about adult breastfeeding, also known as erotic lactation, and they're still sexually interested in the breasts even when they're producing breast milk. Plus, many people are more sensitive to breast stimulation during this time and enjoy the sensation of breastfeeding their partners.

Sharing this intimate experience with another adult can be satisfying for both of you, and it can even bring you closer together as a couple. So, except for a few circumstances when it might pose a health concern, it's OK to breastfeed your partner.

Concerns About Breastfeeding Your Partner

It's normal to have some concerns about breastfeeding your partner. For example, you may wonder if you'll have enough breast milk to nurse your baby if your partner also breastfeeds, especially if you struggle with your milk supply. But the additional stimulation at your breast can actually help you to make more breast milk. You can also breastfeed your baby first to be sure they get a full feeding before spending time with your partner.

Whatever your concerns may be about adult breastfeeding, it's best to talk to your partner about how you feel. By having an open line of communication and working out concerns together, any experiences that you choose to have will be better for both of you.

Reasons Why Your Partner Would Want to Breastfeed

While some adults are not interested in their partner's milk-filled breasts, others are curious about breastfeeding, interested in the taste of breast milk, or simply turned on by lactating breasts. This interest is perfectly normal. Here are some of the reasons that your partner may want to breastfeed:

  • Health benefits: Across the world, breast milk is used as a home remedy for certain conditions. But it's important to note that consuming breast milk has no research-proven health benefits for adults.
  • Fulfilling a fantasy: Your partner may be turned on by your lactating breasts, or they may have a sexual fantasy that involves breastfeeding. Erotic lactation and adult breastfeeding (adult nursing) websites and groups exist just for this purpose. So, as long as you feel comfortable, this is a fantasy that you can safely fulfill for your partner.
  • To feel more included: Now that you're breastfeeding, your partner may feel as though your breasts are off-limits or reserved for the relationship you share with your baby. By giving your partner access to your breasts and breastfeeding, they can feel included in the experience.
  • To taste breast milk: Some partners just want to know how breast milk tastes. And, since breast milk is typically creamy and sweet, they may even like the flavor.

Reasons You May Want Your Partner to Breastfeed

If you've been thinking about asking your partner to breastfeed, you're not alone. Some people are curious about how it would feel to breastfeed their partner or they just want to continue to include their lactating breasts in their intimate relationship. Don't worry; it's not wrong, and there are several reasons why some people consider it.

  • Balance out uneven breasts: If your baby has a breast preference or one of your breasts does not make as much milk as the other one, your partner can help to even out your breasts by breastfeeding on the smaller or neglected side.
  • Boost breast milk supply: The additional stimulation and drainage of milk at your breast can naturally trigger your body to make more breast milk.
  • Drain the breast: Your partner will have a stronger suck than your baby, so they may be able to empty all the areas of your breast. More completely draining the breasts can help remove or prevent plugged milk ducts and nipple blebs. It could also relieve mild breast engorgement.
  • For greater support: Your partner may offer you more help and support if they feel included in the breastfeeding process, or if they feel as though your decision and desire to breastfeed has benefits for them, as well. 
  • Heighten arousal: Some people are sensitive to breast or nipple stimulation and may experience sexual feelings while breastfeeding. Breastfeeding your partner could bring about an unexpected and enjoyable aspect of your sexual relationship.
  • Increase intimacy: Breastfeeding your partner may bring you closer together on an intimate level. Sharing this part of your body and your life with an adult loved one could be a very special and satisfying experience.

When Not to Breastfeed Your Partner

In general, breastfeeding your your adult partner doesn't pose a problem. However, it is not recommended in some circumstances.

You Feel Uncomfortable

You should never feel like you are being forced to do something that you do not want to do. Talk to your partner about your feelings and seek help from a healthcare professional if necessary.

You Have Pain

If you have sore nipples, your nipples are very sensitive, or you have a painful let-down reflex, the strength of an adult's suck can be even more painful than that of a baby. If your partner bites down on your nipples, that could lead to small breaks in the skin that could cause you to develop a breast infection, possibly interfering with your ability and desire to continue breastfeeding your baby.

Your Have Oversupply Issues

If your breasts are engorged, breastfeeding your partner may feel like a relief. However, the extra nursing can cause your body to produce even more breast milk, which can be troublesome if you already have an overabundant milk supply.

You Are HIV Positive or You Have an Infectious Disease

HIV and other infectious diseases can enter your breast milk and pass on to your partner. Some sexually transmitted diseases, including herpes and syphilis, can also spread through breastfeeding if you have active sores on your breasts, nipples, or areola. Your partner should be aware of any risks involved.

Your Partner Has an Infection or Virus

If your partner has a health issue, especially one that's transmitted through the mouth, they can give it to you and your baby through contact at the breast. Do not breastfeed your partner if they have a health condition that can infect you or your child.

You or Your Baby Has Thrush

A yeast infection can pass quickly to your partner and back to you from breastfeeding. If you, your child, or your partner develop any of the signs of thrush, like pain or a burning sensation around the nipple or mouth, call your doctor. You should all receive treatment as soon as possible.

You Are Pregnant and High Risk

If you're pregnant with multiples, you've had a previous miscarriage, or you have a history of preterm labor, talk to your doctor about safe levels of stimulation at the breast. There is some evidence that breast and nipple stimulation can lead to uterine contractions and early labor, so you may want to hold off on adult breastfeeding if your pregnancy is considered high risk.

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