Answers to Parents' Top Questions About Parenting Troubled Teens

If you're raising a troubled teen this is what you should know.

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Each year, over 2 million American teens are arrested in the U.S. Unfortunately, many of their parents weren't sure how to intervene or where to get help when they saw signs their teen was troubled.

Early intervention is the key to helping a troubled teen. Getting professional help could help a teen get back on the right track so they can reach their greatest potential. 

Here are the top five questions parents ask about parenting a troubled teen.

What Are the Signs of a Troubled Teen?

The term troubled teen is used to define a wide array of behavioral or emotional problems among adolescents. Some troubled teens have mental health issues, like depressive disorders or ADHD, that interfere with their daily functioning. Others have substance abuse issues, learning difficulties, or social problems.

Warning signs of a troubled teen include at-risk behavior, like truancy, drug and alcohol experimentation, or stealing.

Problems often start in one area of a teen's life and over time, those problems spill over into other areas. For example, a teen may begin hanging out with the wrong crowd, which may cause turmoil with their parents. Their grades may decline and eventually, their education will suffer.

How Can I Help?

One of the best things you can do to help a troubled teen is to intervene early. It’s much easier to address problems when they’re in their earliest stages. But, it’s better to intervene late than never, so if you’ve allowed problems to go on for a long time, take action as soon as possible.

When your teen's behavior is mild, you may be able to curb problems by making a few changes at home. Monitor your teen better, establish stricter rules, and enforce consequences. Consistent discipline may be enough to help your teen make better choices.

If you’re dealing with more serious problems, seek professional help. Never try to address addiction or violent behavior on your own.

Mental health or medical professionals can provide you with the appropriate resources.

Avoid using threats to scare your teen into changing. Saying you're going to call the police on them won't inspire them to behave better. Instead, use clear consequences for misbehavior and show them that you mean what you say.

Where Can I Get Support?

A good place to start is by discussing your concerns with your child’s pediatrician. A pediatrician can help determine whether the behaviors you’re seeing constitute normal teenage behavior or a more serious problem.

A pediatrician can refer you to the most appropriate resources in your area, such as a mental health professional or a substance abuse treatment facility.

Your teen's doctor will also be able to rule out physical health problems that may be contributing to some of the issues you're seeing.

What if My Teen Refuses Help?

It’s common for most teens to insist they don’t want – or need – help. But just because your teen declines treatment doesn’t mean you can’t continue to pursue help.

If your teen refuses to go to counseling, meet with a mental health professional on your own to discuss your options. You might find your teen is motivated to go to counseling to share their side of the story if they thinks you're talking about them.

A trained mental health professional can also advise you about your options.

You may be able to work with other adults, such as your teen's teachers, coaches, probation officers, and other caregivers to create a safer, more structured environment.

How Do I Deal With the Stress?

Managing your stress is one of the most important things you can do while raising any teenager, let alone a troubled one. It’s important to practice good self-care so you don’t become so overwhelmed that you can’t address your teen’s issues.

Consider seeking therapy for yourself or join a support group.

Don’t hesitate to seek help from friends or family as well. Take time out to engage in healthy activities for yourself to effectively manage your stress level.

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